I’m in love with my close female friend, but she doesn’t feel the same way. Please help me.?
Ok so this is kinda complicated. I met this girl about 6 months ago and we hit it off immediately. I guess from day one i kinda had feelings for her but the closer we grew the more i liked her. I’m 17 years old and she’s honestly the first girl i’ve ever truly liked. I like her because she’s so different from other girls, i can’t really explain it, but she’s perfect.
During the first 4 months I met her, she was dating this guy. She’s totally into BA guys and I’m pretty far from that. Her boyfriend had gauges, smoked a lot of pot, didn’t talk much at all. She’s pretty crazy herself; she’s tried every drug in the book, parents are really easygoing, shes had sex dozens of time. I still have my vcard, have no piercings, never have smoke/drank, not that i’m so against it, i just haven’t got into it. Anyway, in like early January it told her i had feelings for her and her response was "Look I love you too, it’s just differently perceived." I’m guessing she just doesn’t feel any physical attraction for me. The worse part is shes SUCH a tease, like she signs off all of our phone calls with "I love you" and shes always like jumping on me and "licking" me (shes weird).
It got to the point where I couldn’t take hanging out with her anymore because i really really love her. I just wanted to cut her out of my life completely and forget i ever met her. So in like mid-january i turned off my cell phone, ignored her completely in the halls, didnt even say a word to her for like a month. She left me dozens of sweet voicemails/texts saying how she couldn’t live without me and after a month I gave in. So here I am mid-February back to square one. What do i do!??!?! All my friends tell me that I shouldn’t waste my time on this girl (she has an awful reputation at our school, as a druggie, whore, can’t stay friends with a anyone for an extended period of time). She really loves me as a friend but I can’t stand being just friends and would do anything for her, please help me.
Thanks.
bad idea………..
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bad bad bad ideaReferences :
get over it. You say she doesn’t feel the same way. whats the problem? you have your answer already, she doesn’t like you, sorry but its trueReferences :
You’ve just described the opposite of yourself. Oil and Water Don’t mix sorry. Why waste yourself over a bad ideaReferences :
go with ur plan from before, ignore her and cut her out of ur life. i had to do it twice myself and its working out goodReferences :
hit the train.
sorry bud time to move on.
plenty of other fish in the seaReferences :
You really shouldn’t smoke or do drugs, please dont. You should probably just give up on her, she doesn’t really like you and shes a bad influence, honestly she could ruin your life!!! And ther’s no wonder us girls don;t get you guys, youre so confusing!!! Make up ur mind!!!References :
For one, you are 17 years old. Until you become 18, virtually everything you might be doing with her is illegal. 2, she sounds like a poor choice of a lover. She drinks and does drugs, both of which create an unstable mind in which any number of things could happen, ALL bad. My advice is to stay FAR FAR FAR FAR FAR away from her. Not only from the standpoint that she could have 101 stds, but from the fact that people like her tend to attract criminal and all around unfavorable people. She also has a dirty habit that could lead to her stealing from you or one of her friends robbing you.
In short, stay far away and look for cleaner friends.References :
Aww…this is such a classic story (except the drug part). If you love her this much, she loves you back. As you have seen in the typical rom-coms the guy like you is traditionally ignored and then he does something so undeniably sweet for the girl she falls in love with him. I’ll give you some advice, try to get her clean. Show her she can love life with you without drugs. It may not work at first, but an intervention is what she needs to realize how much you love her.References :
I’m guessing she visualizes you as a person she could easily have.
" or "k" Lol.. it always works.References :
And your ignoring her made her second guess that.
I’m sure that I’m the best at playing these games.
So, what you should do is see if you could possibly make her jealous?
Because obviously she has feelings for you.
If all else fails, delete her from your life because this will be a repeating process.
And everytime you see her with a guy, it’ll kill you.
Oh, and drive her crazy with the "I love you" thing.
When she says it, don’t exactly reply the typical "I love you too" but say something like..
"I know
forget about her. don’t bother. go do some stuff ( some guy stuff like going to a club or something. not bad stuff) to get her off your mind. plus why would you want to hang out with someone who does drugs. that’s not a good situation to be in. hope this helpsReferences :
Mmm….I wouldn’t:/ and I know thats not what you want to hear at all, but I’m
just being honest.
I have 2 guys friends that REALLY like me, but I just don’t feel it for them:/
and the fact that they can’t move past it is making it REALLY hard to stay
friends with them. If you can’t move past this, then you might have to let
her go as a friend too, which you probably don’t want to do.
Not only that, but I REALLY REALLY REALLY believe that you "become"
who you date..And I would hate to see someone like you, (virgin, doesn’t
do drugs, doesn’t smoke..Etc) turn into someone like her.
I’m 18, and the BIGGEST turn off to me is guys who do drugs.
And I have some serious respect for people who don’t go around having
sex, and wait for their "special someone" or even better, marriage.
These days so many people make themselves, cheap, worthless,
and just over all gross by doing the same things that they thought
would make them cool.
Anyway…Like I said, I wouldn’t do it.
But bottom line, do what you feel it right. If you seriously can’t
let her go and get her out of your head, then maybe there’s
something to it. Maybe she is your "special someone"…
Just be smart and think before doing something stupid.References : Answer mine please?
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Thats a bad idea bro, maybe she just wants a fun time and you’re looking for something serious. Bad idea, she’ll just end up hurting you in the end. Just try to be clear with her. Be straight up.
Just say: "Look i really like you, but if you want to have a fun time its cool to, i know ill meet another girl that has mutual feelings. But if you want to work something serious out then that would be better. Just dont play games with me and be clear with me"
or
something along those lines.References : Experience.
Married now to a wonderful girl.